I used to wonder if in fact I was nothing more than an unrealistic dreamer. What if 10 years from now I look back and suddenly realize I’d waisted all this time trying to make it happen? There was nothing left to try, everyone was laughing at me and I was still looked at as the one that was unrealistic, the one that ran from one thing to another, the one that should have just…?
HOW COULD I KNOW for SURE? How could I move forward? How could I make it HAPPEN?
There was so much pressure, constantly having to prove myself and my worth…that’s what it felt like.
Silently I was plotting out all the ways I could one day say, “told you so”
HOW IN THE HELL WAS I ACTUALLY GOING TO MAKE IT HAPPEN THOUGH?
In the event you had said to me - “stop worrying about it because even after you retire your husband, write the book, design and implement a unique farming model in your province and have worked with the leading professionals in your industry, you will still feel like you have to prove it to them” - I’d have told you to get your head checked.
And then there I was, having that very experience. Grasping at straws, trying to make it work, searching for answers, implementing everything I could think of, mimicking anyone who slightly resembled success and suddenly I realized, if I didn’t STOP all of this I would absolutely look back 10 years from now and realize I’d waisted all this time “trying” to make it happen.
Trying was not going to cut it for me and I knew that if I was going to MAKE IT HAPPEN that it wasn’t going to be following the typical business practices.
In fact what I knew was, IF I was going to make it happen - the fastest and most direct way to MAKE IT HAPPEN would be to REMOVE all business from it….. that felt like the most freedom I had experienced in years.
Could you imagine. Build a business that consisted of no business! Unrealistic? ….. well if the shoe fits! And I certainly slipped it on with ease.
I was feeling pretty foot loose and fancy free.
I could literally feel it HAPPENING inside of me. I always knew it could and would happen, but I never dreamt it would be by stopping doing what I was doing. I always preached work smarter not harder. I had always systematized and strategized and optimized the hell out of both of those two things. (how else does a lone farmer only work 5 hours a day and feed 25 families 🙄)
I wouldn’t have thought building a business without doing businesses was going to bring me to a life of pulling our kids out of school and traveling with my family for three months a year. Or watching my husband and son get their pilots license and fly around the skies year round as they are harnessed to a wing and flying free. Or meet the most incredible, determined, motivated, driven, passionate women I have ever met. Or transform lives and relationship through simple sharings. Those things hadn’t even come to mind back then, they were way to far ahead of me.
I WOULD have thought that to make that happen, would require twice the hustle, dozens more hours a week, tens of thousands more dollars, a team to support me, and a horseshoe…. (for the lucky break)
Not even close.
Let’s go backwards for a moment.
This is the fascinating thing (and this is a little insider tip for how you actually make it happen, so listen up). I stopped trying to MAKE it happen.
I literally sat in my yoga studio one day with my journal in hand and the words, “what if you simply showed up fully and completely every single day, invited others on the journey and were handsomely compensated for it?” landed on my page!
Now if that doesn't stun a 15 year entrepreneur, I’m not sure what would.
There I sat for the following three days letting it percolate. What does it mean, how might it look, could it possibly work, HOW DO I MAKE THAT HAPPEN?
I started to review my previous 8 years of business and there it was, all laid out in front of me. THAT was precisely what I had been doing all along. I knew exactly how to do it. In fact it was the only thing I’d ever known how to do. (ask any of my store employees, I’m certain they will tell you I was a heart and soul hustler and all business went by the way side)
It may sound crazy but what I was guided to do was in fact what I had ALWAYS done and yet was totally unaware of.
I suddenly KNEW what had happened, why the struggle, why the wonder if in fact I was nothing more than an unrealistic dreamer. Why it was feeling so hard and impossible, why my bank account was moving in reverse, why nothing seemed to be working no matter how many hours I put in.
I stopped trusting that I KNEW EXACTLY what to do.
I stopped FOLLOWING MYSELF.
I stopped believing it COULD BE THAT EASY
I stopped doing WHAT I HAD ALWAYS DONE
I had started watching THEM
I had started listening to THEM
I had started following THEM
I had started focusing on THEM
I had started to BECOME THEM!!!!!!!!
I had done exactly what you are doing. The difference is I had 15 years experience, I “should” have saw it happening. Chances are what you are currently doing, is what you have been told you need to do and you are simply trusting with blind faith (fair enough, but time to stop).
More importantly, I turned it around within DAYS.
I got back to the business of being ANGIE P, I showed up as me, shamelessly sharing all my flaws and faults, vulnerably sharing the ups and downs of life…..ruffling many feathers along the way, saying things as they are, dropping the fluff and BS, challenging the nonsense that is assumed to be growing you into success, making the complicated easy, offering the Coles Notes version of it it all, because…. well smatter not harder - strategized, systematized and optimized. And naturally because life is not meant to be hard.
I wasn’t worrying about if I was doing it right. I wasn’t worried about if I was going to convince you to buy something. I wasn't manipulating anyone to get them on a list. I wasn't using lack mindset strategies to play to your pain points. I wasn’t making it about having to BECOME ANYTHING.
I didn’t plan what I was going to be doing 6 months down the road. WHY? Because I didn’t know who the hell I was going to be in 6 months time. What I did know was that if I just kept showing up AS ME every dam day….. 6 months from now would take care of itself!
I didn’t try to be anything. I showed up as me. 99% of the time hair on point and 99.9% of the time earrings on because well… if you know me - I don’t feel human without those two things. Side note - I was caught in public once straight out of the barn by a very high end client and well let’s just say it traumatized me 😂
It all began to HAPPEN because I was tapping into EXACTLY what I was meant to be doing. I was aligned with the EXACT person I always was but had not yet stepped into being. IT ALL HAPPENED when I began to LET it happen and STOPPED trying to MAKE it happen. (don’t kid yourself here, this part has nothing to do with sitting back and doing nothing!)
The three months trips, watching my husband and son get their pilots license and fly around the skies year round, meeting the most incredible, determined, motivated, driven, passionate women I have ever met, transforming lives and relationships through simple sharings… It’s all a byproduct of the EXACTIFICATION of being you. (no I did not spell it wrong, I created the word 😉)
Of course there is more to it than just showing up being you. Because let’s be real, at this point you are probably sitting there saying to yourself “I am being me Angie, and it’s not working so, you’re full of it.”
However if you are one of the few still reading… in which case you will be one of the few who know you are going to MAKE IT HAPPEN because you have followed along this far and let’s be honest I’m talking all about myself which to many will feel a little snobbish or holier than thou. Many have been taught to make it all about the potential client that they are trying to convince they are fit for and in turn will be wondering when on earth I will get to the point……
BAM 💥….hello….that was the point! If you are going to make it happen. YOU are the POINT and that is actually and factual exactly what is going to MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Me, well I just came into this world with the understanding that I was going to do what I wanted to do. Seemingly I would arrive with the ability to push buttons, to first piss em off and them have them standing there saying “how in the hell did you just make that happen?”
I’ll never forget wanting to be a fashion designer at 8 yrs old. Begging to use my mom’s sewing machine. Her freaking out with worry saying “absolutely not” and me promptly going to a friends after school only for her mom to pull out her sewing machine and me whipping up pretty dam fancy purse (not to mention lined and all), never having touched a sewing machine or needle before. I pranced home with that thing slung over my shoulder proud as punch AND was promptly grounded and scolded for doing such a thing. Because you know, “you could have put the needle through your finger and how do you think her mom would have felt knowing it was her fault she let you use the machine”🙄
Naturally the only logical outcome from that was - several orders from friends and from my friends parents. Of course at which time my praises were then sung.
I have always believed and understood I could make it happen. It has never been something I am available to question. I have always expected it to happen as imagined just like I expect tomorrow to be Monday.
Regardless of if it was running away from home at 16.
Getting my ass through school AS A FASHION DESIGNER with a surprise first born after the first year.
Designing, launching and selling my own clothing line.
Raising 4 children off of 25,000 a year for years
Moving beyond major mental and physical traumas
Writing and publishing a book
Founding a chain of boutique stores
Designing an entire farm model for a province.
Rebuilding and reestablishing my life after PSTD
Building an online business that allows me to travel the world for months at a time.
Raising my children to know that they can make anything HAPPEN.
It’s just who I am at the core.
I didn’t choose to be this way, it’s how I came into this world.
For whatever reason I just know how to MAKE IT HAPPEN, some may call it stubborn but those that know me… know it goes WAY beyond that.
Somehow, for some reason people know that about me. Or maybe they just sense it and maybe that’s because they are my soul tribe (ok remove the maybe) they are my soul tribe. When something is bad…. real bad… the messages pour in, the request are made, they know that together we can make it happen. They know they get exactly what they need to get and that what is meant to happen is EXACTLY what will HAPPEN as a result of our time together.
The magic is, they KNOW what is meant to HAPPEN for them before they ever come to me. They know what they EXPECT to HAPPEN before they come to me and therefore we simply MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Because….there is no other available option.
It’s those that KNOW what is meant to happen for them.
It’s those that EXPECT what they desire to happen for them
It’s those who are willing to STOP trying to make it happen and instead let it HAPPEN…
That share the results I live.
What I hadn’t realized all of those years is that, that is EXACTLY what I was doing. It was unconscious and unintentional at the time, it just happened.
NOW…. well now it is the EXACTIFICATION of making it HAPPEN that is what let’s me not only repeat it but also share it with you.
My purposeful hustle and productive flow have been the design of how to MAKE IT HAPPEN.
It has never JUST happened. I’ve learned how to MAKE it happen. I’ve had to lock it in. I’ve had to unlearn everything that I was conditioned to learn. I have done the work, the mindset work, the personal growth work, the spiritual growth work, the sit your ass on a cushion in silence for 30 days in India work. I have uncovered what was holding me back and have unleashed what let’s it be easy.
So many of my clients, just like you are out there hustling, doing all the things, putting in the time, putting in the money, nose to the grind, working a day job while doing the side gig at night, they show up non-stop and yet their feeling like…
There is nothing to show for it. They cannot get ahead. There is no seemingly logical reason for their lack of results.
If right now you are thinking, “yup I can relate” and if the one day way of thinking - is starting to feel like a time you don’t in fact have time for!
I’m right here.
I know EXACTLY where you are, I know EXACTLY how you feel and I know EXACTLY why it’s happening.
And I am beyond happy to tell you how to shift it NOW.
What still shocks me today is that I had NO IDEA what it was that was keeping me stuck in this business. I was doing all of the “things” I needed to be doing. I did’t have a CLUE why after all that I had invested - both time and money, that I was doing nothing more than spinning my wheels.
I knew what I wanted. I knew I would make it happen. I was hell bent on having it and frankly, if you’re not hell bent on having it. If your not unapologetic in saying I AM GOING TO MAKE IT HAPPEN, you are not feeling worthy of having it (and that is the main reason you are stuck)
You are hustling
You feel like your in flow
So what’s the deal.
PURPOSEFUL Hustle and PRODUCTIVE Flow is what you are missing and those are VERY, VERY (I’ll say it again, very) different things that hustle and flow.
You think you have to hustle so you do and then you burn out, whops you think maybe just chilling and hanging out in a feeling of flow will bring your vibe and energy up and get you some results. You play ping pong with yourself bouncing from one to the other.
Now Purposeful Hustle that’s an entirely different thing. There is NO do for doing sake. There is NO must do, should do or gotta do.
Productive Flow… flow and doing nothing , nope not a match, quite the opposite. Your chilling vibe, just hanging out, waiting for things to feel more flow like so you can jump back into hustle when your vibe is up…. it is never gonna work.
Think strategized, systematized, optimized, truest version of YOU
The Exactification of WHO YOU ARE.
Here is the thing.
You have to know what you want.
You have to know you are going to MAKE IT HAPPEN.
And from there you need to unapologetically claim it.
You have to to choose Purposeful Hustle.
You have to choose Productive Flow.
You have to choose BOTH simotaneously.
And then you align accordingly.
First, you have to decide you are going to make it happen and that you are going to have it. You must actively align with it and program yourself as already living it (pull out your journal) You must expect that it is happening for you already, in this very moment…and in every moment….”it gets to be easier and easier to make it all happen”….. “I am creating my next level life”… and so on.
Get clear on how that will look, what it will include, how you will show up inside of it and then from that create your daily mantras. Journal them, think them, speak them to yourself over and over and over every single day. YOU ARE TRANSFORMING YOUR CELLULAR MEMORY, rewiring your mind.
The mind - the very thing that’s keeping you in the patterns you are currently in. You keep pressing play on the same song over and over, it’s time to change the song.
That old song. The one that says:
It’s greedy to want too more.
I need to do this first.
I’m not ready.
I don’t know how.
What if I fail?
What if I’m waisting my time?
What if I get it, only to loose it?
What will they say about me?
Other’s get to have it but I don’t.
You get to delete that track. Erase it and record a new one.
That is exactly what I have done. But you HAVE TO BE WILLING to do the work.
The work of “right now”. Grab a pen and paper and starting listing every single track that is consciously and sub-consciously playing in your mind on repeat. List the ones you know are there but you try to cover up. (another tip, pay attention: if you aren’t willing to be honest with yourself and see it for what it is you can’t erase the dam track. Do the work, write until you are emptied of the reasons telling you, you can’t or shouldn’t)
And now you are going to begin to MAKE IT HAPPEN. Now you are going to change the track, you are going to write a new song. You are going to claim what is yours. For every reason you listed earlier now you’re going to write a NEW TRACK. What’s actually true, at the deepest core level, from the soul, from the 100% worthy, all deserving you.
List all of the NEW TRACKS you are deciding to play from this moment on. And then every single time you go back to the old song you choose again from your new list. You become aware of where you are replaying the old and you choose from the new - over and over and over again UNTIL IT IS ON AUTOMATIC REPLAY.
Here’s the thing, this IS how you Make it happen AND just as there is duality in everything, it exists here as well. You CAN’T make this happen, you have to LET it happen. It happens by YOU doing the WORK. This work.
I know you desperately want it and you want it now (another tip, listen up: when your grasping at it, pushing and forcing HUSTLING - there is resistance ad desperation in you and that only keeps it further from you). The only way you are going to make it happen is to DO the work continually and then LET it happen. If you DO the work once, twice, three times and then drop the ball - well you’re waisting your time, it won’t work.
I still do the work, on repeat - EVERY DAM DAY
That’s how you,
And most importantly STOP trying to force it to happen.
Stop telling yourself you’ve done everything and it’s not working.
Stop the start and stop cycle of trying and giving up.
COMMIT to MAKING IT HAPPEN and then LET IT HAPPEN.
When you know EXACTY what you need to do and EXACTLY how to do it - you get to strategize and systematize and then you get to optimize them both SO THAT…. it all happens QUICKER, SOONER, FASTER every single time!
Because what it comes down to is, if you want it to happen for REAL, you have to be the person that is going to make it happen.
Life is not meant to be hard. Let it be easy.